help… do I tell a potential date I am photosensitive to sunlight?
hi — i’m at the end of my rope here on this one.
I’m 29 now — haven’t been outdoors during the day or near windows for a year.
I used to be social, bubbly, positive. Now I’m numbed from isolation, angered from loss of employment.
I now go outdoors only before 9am & after 5pm. On cloudy days I have to put a sweater over my face on the bus — otherwise my face swells, crusts, and starts to deform. My vision blurs.
I can’t take it anymore — I spend my money on taxi’s just to get the hell outta my house. Just started a new part time job — but it’s a $20 cab ride to work. I break even — except — I have gained my sanity back.
There’s a guy at work — he’s been flirting with me. Since the isolation, I’ve become PAINFULLY SHY. eek. embarrassing. But IF he asks me to do anything, should I tell him?
Going to try a Motorcycle Helmet — last resort. High end: $500 blocks 100% UV, or so they claim. If it doesn’t work, game over. no daylight = no life.
Don’t tell him yet. See if it goes anywhere. Go out with him. If he is your type and you see a meaningful relationship materialising then tell him.
If he’s worth it and likes you as a person; he’ll understand. Don’t tell him too early though in case it scares him and puts him off finding the inner you. Don’t assume that he’ll run a mile when you tell him. There’s nothing wrong with you.
Good luck!
Don’t tell him yet. See if it goes anywhere. Go out with him. If he is your type and you see a meaningful relationship materialising then tell him.
If he’s worth it and likes you as a person; he’ll understand. Don’t tell him too early though in case it scares him and puts him off finding the inner you. Don’t assume that he’ll run a mile when you tell him. There’s nothing wrong with you.
Good luck!
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yes tell him. it’s the best way to avoid any problems. what if he asked you to go out on a sunny day.? telling him is better than him wondering why you were a no show.
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Good luck. That doesn’t sound like fun. But I do think it’s possible to find someone who can "make it work" with you.
I’d suggest the opposite from #1: tell him before he gets around to asking you anything. Make it part of a friend’s conversation. Don’t start off a dating relationship concealing things.
By the way, if you’re feeling depressed or suicidal, you have to work on that first. Seek out professional support. Dating adds extra complications to your life that you don’t need.
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First- no daylight equals no daylight. that’s it. there are so many things to do at nighttime. and isn’t that when most dates take place? that’s when most of my dates took place.
what i would do is play this so cool. if it’s not a big deal to you, it won’t be that big of a deal to him. when he asks you out (i seem to think he will) just explain- hey, no daylight, i’ve just got this thing where i react really badly.
if he asks what it is, make light about it, (the only thing i can think of is being half vampire, i’m sure you are much more original than that)
this is not the time to give him a technical definition and detailed explination. this is the time to show your cute sense of humor and ability to laugh at anything.
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